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Title: Deaths and Near Deaths
Post by: Hydromancerx on April 19, 2017, 01:30:38 pm
I tried to find a topic for this but I did not see one. So here goes ...

My mom died on April 14th 2017 at 7:49 pm PST. She was in the hospital with pneumonia since March 27th. My dad, sister and I took turns staying with her until the very end. I cannot stop crying.  :(

Also my motherboard died 2 weeks ago and I had to basically get a new computer. While my hard drives were fine I have to move stuff all back again to the new C drive and I am not in the best mental state to be doing computer stuff.

The funeral will be on Thursday March 20th at 11 am. My heart hurts so much I feel like I am going to die.  :'(

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Post by: Krakow Sam on April 19, 2017, 01:54:27 pm
Damn man, really sorry to hear that.  :(
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Post by: PatMan33 on April 19, 2017, 02:24:33 pm
Aw Hydro, you've got all our support. There's not much we can do for you, but if you want to talk or play a game to unwind, I think that's within our power.

Keep in touch and use this topic to let us know how you're doing. Let me know if I can help you with that computer stuff. You probably already know what you're doing, but never hurts to have a second brain! Go be with your family though, they're the best help you'll have right now. We'll be here whenever you come back around. :)
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Post by: Ultimatum on April 19, 2017, 02:26:24 pm
My thoughts are with you at this difficult time Hyrdro

I hope I wrote that right,
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Post by: PatMan33 on April 19, 2017, 02:34:23 pm
I hope I wrote that right,

(http://i.imgur.com/D08YgZu.jpg)

(we're keeping it light, right?)
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Post by: Rysworld on April 19, 2017, 02:55:53 pm
That sucks. Wish you and your family the best in dealing with tragedy.
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Post by: Yokto on April 19, 2017, 03:45:06 pm
Sorry to hear that Hydro. Losing close family members is never easy.
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Post by: Inkling on April 19, 2017, 04:24:41 pm
I'm so sorry, Hydro.
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Post by: eropS on April 19, 2017, 04:34:33 pm
I'm so sorry for you loss Hydro. I hope you can find happiness again
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Post by: sgore on April 19, 2017, 10:35:05 pm
Hydro, I'm deeply sorry for your loss.
We all are.
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Post by: Haseri on April 20, 2017, 01:05:50 am
Really sorry to hear that Hydro.
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Post by: Slinky on April 20, 2017, 03:24:31 am
I'm sorry bud. Hang in there, please don't forget to take care of yourself or anything like that (ik grief causes that sometimes), and hey, we're always here for you <3
Title: Re: Deaths
Post by: Hydromancerx on April 22, 2017, 07:49:45 am
Thanks you guys. Its good to hear such kind words from you guys. Especially those of you who have been around since the Pre-Spore days.

My mom was never on the computer too much but for a short time during the mid 2000s she had a laptop. And I made a wallpaper with all my Spore creatures for her. I am not sure how much she liked them, but since it was made by me she loved it.

She was also nice enough to drive me all the way to the GDC 2006 that year to see the Spore demo and meet Will Wright. She was so selfless and always put her family before herself. I am so proud to have her as my mom.
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Post by: Gec on April 22, 2017, 12:39:03 pm
I know it's not much but sending you e-Hugs your way Hydro. We'll be thinking about you!

You probably know this already but your mom loved you very much. Keep doing meaningful things and I'm sure she'd still be proud of you. It will take time to get back on your feet. Just give yourself the time to mourn and appreciate the family you have now, including the family you have on the forum.
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Post by: Brandonazz on April 24, 2017, 04:12:36 am
I'm not crying after reading this, I just got ash in my eye. And the other one.

I'm sure that my empathy isn't the only person's empathy wishing that you get peace of mind as soon as it comes.

We're all getting to the age where this is going to start happening with increasing frequency.
I imagine some members have already gone through it.

But you're gonna be better Hydro - the human condition sucks, but we'll all be where you are, like billions before, and even if we can't make you feel better without chemicals, know that we all are, have, or will be going through this with you. Don't feel like there are fewer people in your life. You just joined a family made up of every past generation and became more human. This species has got your back.

And her love is still in you.
Title: Re: Deaths
Post by: Hydromancerx on April 24, 2017, 09:50:45 am
Well I have never done drugs or even drank alcohol. The first week i considered having a drink but needed to be focused to deal with all the doctors every day. While I can keep my mind occupied on other things I still need to experience all the pain and mourning if I am ever going to get back to "normal". Every time I have a big cry I do feel a lot better afterwards.

Yoss has been helpful in talking to on steam. I also have one person from my Caveman2Cosmos modding days who has been very helpful to talk to. My family is also of course very helpful but I know a lot of the time they get sad too if I talk to them.

I am just taking things day by day. I read an article about mourning a parents death and it said that the mourning period was equal to how much you loved them and they loved you back. And since I was closer to my mom than anyone else in my family I know it will take me a very long time for this.

My mom use to say "You are only as old as you feel, and I feel like I am in my 20's still!" So when we made the programs for the funeral we picked a picture from when she was in her 20's. And for her obituary we picked one from just last month when she went to a baby shower for my cousin's new baby.

Here is the online obituary. I also have a physical copy from the newspaper on that day. My sister wrote the obituary. And I think she did great.

http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/dailybreeze/obituary.aspx?pid=185140039

All I can say is make sure you tell your parents you love them frequently. I always did. You never know when you will loose them.
Title: Re: Deaths and Near Deaths
Post by: Hydromancerx on May 24, 2017, 07:20:14 am
So now my dad went to the hospital because of having a heart attack on Monday the 22nd. He is alive and even out of the ICU. I spent the day with him. Hopefully he gets out of the hospital today or tomorrow. He is having some trouble breathing but overall he is much better. No more heart pain. I cannot believe I am going through this all again and almost lost my dad!
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Post by: Krakow Sam on May 24, 2017, 10:02:17 am
Christ, you're really being put through the wringer Hydro. Glad your dad made it through.
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Post by: Hydromancerx on May 25, 2017, 04:32:32 pm
My dad came home today! So now he can get some rest without being bothered and poked. I am so relived to have him here.
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Post by: Inkling on May 25, 2017, 06:28:09 pm
Hoping he makes a quick and full recovery!!

Hang in there, Hydro.
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Post by: GroxGlitch on May 28, 2017, 02:33:25 am
Hang in there Hydro, my sympathies for your recent luck  :( Here's hoping smooth sailing for your dad from here on out.
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Post by: sgore on May 28, 2017, 05:36:56 am
Same. Glad your father made it home okay. I hope he recovers well.
Title: Re: Deaths and Near Deaths
Post by: Hydromancerx on June 26, 2017, 09:59:40 am
So we took my dad back to the hospital on Sunday night. He is having trouble breathing, pain in his throat and leg. Not sure whats wrong, but atleast he was brought there without having to call 911 this time.
Title: Re: Deaths and Near Deaths
Post by: eropS on June 26, 2017, 02:49:27 pm
Hope its a passing thing, thoughts are with you Hydro hope you're doing ok
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Post by: Inkling on June 26, 2017, 03:31:02 pm
Yeah, hope he and you are doing well!
Title: Re: Deaths and Near Deaths
Post by: Hydromancerx on June 26, 2017, 08:39:10 pm
Good news he was able to come home today! So basically 24 hours in the hospital. He still has some pain in his leg but they could not find anything wrong with him.